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class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4f60\u4e0d\u9700\u8981\u82b1\u8d85\u8fc7\u4e00\u534a\u7684\u65f6\u95f4\u4e0e\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u5728\u4e00\u8d77\uff0c\u56e0\u4e3a\u4f60\u9700\u8981\u65f6\u95f4\u4e0e\u4f60\u7684\u670b\u53cb\u548c\u5bb6\u4eba\u5728\u4e00\u8d77\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u8fd9\u4e0d\u4ec5\u662f\u4e00\u4e2a\u5f88\u597d\u7684\u65b0\u5173\u7cfb\u5efa\u8bae\uff0c\u56e0\u4e3a\u4f60\u4e0d\u4f1a\u8ba9\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u7a92\u606f\uff0c\u800c\u4e14\u8fd8\u80fd\u7ef4\u6301\u4f60\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u751f\u6d3b\u548c\u793e\u4ea4\u5173\u7cfb\uff0c\u8fd9\u975e\u5e38\u91cd\u8981\u3002 <\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-15-establish-your-boundaries\">\n  <span id=\"15_Establish_your_boundaries\">15. \u8bbe\u5b9a\u754c\u9650 <\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u73b0\u5728\u4e0d\u8fd9\u6837\u505a\uff0c\u4ee5\u540e\u4f60\u5c06\u5f88\u96be\u5efa\u7acb\u5b83\u4eec\u3002\u6bcf\u4e2a\u4eba\u90fd\u6709\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u4e2a\u4eba\u754c\u9650\uff0c\u8fd9\u5e76\u6ca1\u6709\u4ec0\u4e48\u9519\u3002<\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4f46\u4f60\u9700\u8981\u8868\u8fbe\u51fa\u6765\u5e76\u8ba9\u5bf9\u65b9\u77e5\u9053\u754c\u9650\u5728\u54ea\u91cc\u3002\u8fd9\u4e9b\u754c\u9650\u53ef\u4ee5\u662f\u4efb\u4f55\u4e8b\u7269\uff0c\u4f8b\u5982\u8c01\u4e3a\u4ec0\u4e48\u4ed8\u8d39\u3001PDA \u4ee5\u53ca\u72ec\u5904\u7684\u4e2a\u4eba\u65f6\u95f4\u3002\u4f60\u8d8a\u65e9\u505a\uff0c\u5c31\u8d8a\u5bb9\u6613\u3002 [\u9605\u8bfb\uff1a\u6240\u6709\u592b\u59bb\u5fc5\u987b\u5c3d\u65e9\u5212\u5b9a\u7684\u65b0\u5173\u7cfb\u754c\u9650\u548c\u754c\u9650]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-16-don-t-change-for-anyone\">\n  <span id=\"16_Dont_change_for_anyone\">16.\u4e0d\u8981\u4e3a\u4efb\u4f55\u4eba\u6539\u53d8<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5f53\u6211\u4eec\u559c\u6b22\u67d0\u4eba\u65f6\uff0c\u6211\u4eec\u5f88\u5bb9\u6613\u6539\u53d8\u4f60\u7684\u89c2\u70b9\u4ee5\u66f4\u597d\u5730\u9002\u5408\u6211\u4eec\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u3002\u6211\u4eec\u8fd9\u6837\u505a\u662f\u56e0\u4e3a\u6211\u4eec\u60f3\u4e0e\u4ed6\u4eec\u5efa\u7acb\u8054\u7cfb\uff0c\u4f46\u4e8b\u5b9e\u5e76\u975e\u5982\u6b64\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u76f8\u53cd\uff0c\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u4eec\u592a\u76f8\u4f3c\uff0c\u5c31\u4f1a\u53d8\u5f97\u65e0\u804a\u3002\u5fe0\u4e8e\u4f60\u7684\u89c2\u70b9\u548c\u611f\u53d7\uff0c\u56e0\u4e3a\u4f60\u6709\u5b83\u4eec\u662f\u6709\u539f\u56e0\u7684\u3002 [\u9605\u8bfb\uff1a\u81ea\u6211\u53cd\u601d\u95ee\u9898\uff0c\u5e2e\u52a9\u60a8\u5fe0\u4e8e\u81ea\u5df1]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-17-be-open-about-sex\">\n  <span id=\"17_Be_open_about_sex\">17. 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id=\"18_Go_easy_with_meeting_the_parents\">18. \u8f7b\u677e\u4f1a\u89c1\u7236\u6bcd<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u542c\u7740\uff0c\u522b\u6025\u7740\u53bb\u89c1\u7236\u6bcd\u3002\u5f53\u4ed6\u4eec\u51c6\u5907\u597d\u65f6\uff0c\u4ed6\u4eec\u4f1a\u901a\u77e5\u60a8\uff0c\u5e76\u4e14\u6700\u597d\u5728\u4ed6\u4eec\u8868\u8fbe\u613f\u671b\u65f6\u4e0e\u60a8\u7684\u5bb6\u4eba\u89c1\u9762\u3002\u5982\u679c\u4e0d\u662f\uff0c\u4f60\u53ef\u80fd\u4f1a\u8ba9\u4ed6\u4eec\u9677\u5165\u5c34\u5c2c\u7684\u5883\u5730\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5f53\u7136\uff0c\u8fd9\u5e76\u4e0d\u610f\u5473\u7740\u4f60\u4e0d\u5e94\u8be5\u9080\u8bf7\u4ed6\u4eec\u5403\u996d\uff0c\u53ea\u662f\u8ba9\u4ed6\u4eec\u51b3\u5b9a\u53bb\u4e0d\u53bb\u3002 [\u9605\u8bfb\uff1a\u660e\u663e\u8ff9\u8c61\u8868\u660e\u662f\u65f6\u5019\u89c1\u7236\u6bcd\u4e86]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-19-make-an-effort-to-get-to-know-their-friends\">\n  <span id=\"19_Make_an_effort_to_get_to_know_their_friends\">19. \u52aa\u529b\u53bb\u4e86\u89e3\u4ed6\u4eec\u7684\u670b\u53cb <\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u901a\u8fc7\u67e5\u770b\u53e6\u4e00\u4e2a\u4eba\u548c\u8c01\u4e00\u8d77\u51fa\u53bb\u73a9\uff0c\u60a8\u53ef\u4ee5\u4e86\u89e3\u5f88\u591a\u5173\u4e8e\u4ed6\u4eec\u7684\u4fe1\u606f\u3002\u5f53\u4ed6\u4eec\u5c06\u60a8\u4ecb\u7ecd\u7ed9\u4ed6\u4eec\u7684\u670b\u53cb\u65f6\uff0c\u8bf7\u786e\u4fdd\u60a8\u82b1\u65f6\u95f4\u53bb\u4e86\u89e3\u4ed6\u4eec\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u60a8\u5c06\u80fd\u591f\u4e86\u89e3\u60a8\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u559c\u6b22\u4e0e\u8c01\u5171\u5ea6\u65f6\u5149\uff0c\u4ee5\u53ca\u4e3a\u4ec0\u4e48\u4ed6\u4eec\u9009\u62e9\u4e0e\u4ed6\u4eec\u4e00\u8d77\u51fa\u53bb\u73a9\u7684\u4eba\u3002\u5b83\u8fd8\u5411\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u8868\u660e\u4f60\u4f1a\u5f88\u597d\u5730\u878d\u5165\u4ed6\u4eec\u7684\u751f\u6d3b\u3002 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class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4f60\u7684\u7231\u60c5\u6545\u4e8b\u4e0d\u9700\u8981\u770b\u8d77\u6765\u50cf TikTok \u60c5\u4fa3\u7684\u7cbe\u5f69\u7247\u6bb5\u3002\u793e\u4f1a\u6bd4\u8f83\u751a\u81f3\u4f1a\u8ba9\u5065\u5eb7\u7684\u5173\u7cfb\u611f\u5230\u201c\u4e0d\u591f\u201d\u3002\u5173\u6ce8\u4f60\u4eec\u4e4b\u95f4\u7684\u8054\u7cfb\u611f\u89c9\u5982\u4f55\uff0c\u800c\u4e0d\u662f\u4ece\u5916\u90e8\u770b\u8d77\u6765\u5982\u4f55\u3002<\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\ud83d\udcda \u8d44\u6599\u6765\u6e90\uff1aGursoy B. 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class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u9664\u4e86\u4f60\u7684\u4e0b\u4e00\u6b21\u7ea6\u4f1a\u4e4b\u5916\u6839\u672c\u6ca1\u6709\u8003\u8651\u672a\u6765\u7684\u4efb\u4f55\u4e8b\u60c5\u600e\u4e48\u529e\uff1f <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u65e0\u8bba\u4f60\u4eec\u5bf9\u4f60\u4eec\u7684\u672a\u6765\u6709\u4ec0\u4e48\u5e7b\u60f3\uff0c\u90fd\u8981\u7b49\u5230\u4f60\u4eec\u7684\u5173\u7cfb\u5b8c\u5168\u5efa\u7acb\u548c\u7a33\u5b9a\u7684\u65f6\u5019\u518d\u53bb\u5e7b\u60f3\u3002\u8fd9\u6837\uff0c\u4f60\u4eec\u5c31\u53ef\u4ee5\u5206\u4eab\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u68a6\u60f3\u5e76\u52aa\u529b\u5b9e\u73b0\u5b83\u4eec\u3002 [\u9605\u8bfb\uff1a\u5173\u4e8e\u65b0\u604b\u60c5\u7684 60 \u4e2a\u4e86\u89e3\u4f60\u7684\u95ee\u9898]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-23-celebrate-green-flags-not-just-red-ones\">\n  <span id=\"23_Celebrate_green_flags_not_just_red_ones\">23. \u5e86\u795d\u7eff\u65d7\uff0c\u800c\u4e0d\u4ec5\u4ec5\u662f\u7ea2\u65d7<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u6211\u4eec\u90fd\u5bf9\u5371\u9669\u4fe1\u53f7\u975e\u5e38\u654f\u611f\u3002\u4f46\u4e5f\u4e0d\u8981\u5fd8\u8bb0\u6ce8\u610f\u7eff\u8272\u7684\u56e0\u7d20\uff1a\u60c5\u611f\u4e0a\u7684\u53ef\u7528\u6027\u3001\u4e00\u81f4\u6027\u3001\u5065\u5eb7\u7684\u754c\u9650\u3001\u538b\u529b\u4e0b\u7684\u53cb\u5584\u3002\u8fd9\u4e9b\u8ff9\u8c61\u901a\u5e38\u6bd4\u8f83\u5b89\u9759\uff0c\u4f46\u6b63\u662f\u5b83\u4eec\u8ba9\u7231\u60c5\u5f97\u4ee5\u6301\u4e45\u3002<\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\ud83d\udcda \u8d44\u6599\u6765\u6e90\uff1aGottman \u7b49\u4eba\uff0c1999 \u5e74\uff0c\u9884\u6d4b\u65b0\u5a5a\u592b\u5987\u79bb\u5a5a <\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-24-know-that-obstacles-occur\">\n  <span id=\"24_Know_that_obstacles_occur\">24.\u77e5\u9053\u4f1a\u51fa\u73b0\u969c\u788d <\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p 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class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-25-quit-with-the-unavailability-games\">\n  <span id=\"25_Quit_with_the_unavailability_games\">25. \u9000\u51fa\u65e0\u6548\u6e38\u620f<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u662f\u7684\uff0c\u4f60\u4eec\u7684\u5173\u7cfb\u662f\u65b0\u7684\uff0c\u4f46\u8fd9\u5e76\u4e0d\u610f\u5473\u7740\u5b83\u4e0d\u80fd\u6210\u4e3a\u4f60\u7684\u4f18\u5148\u4e8b\u9879\u4e4b\u4e00\u3002\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u4e00\u5f00\u59cb\u5c31\u8868\u73b0\u5f97\u8fc7\u4e8e\u51b7\u6f20\uff0c\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u53ef\u80fd\u4f1a\u611f\u5230\u88ab\u5ffd\u89c6\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u5e0c\u671b\u4ed6\u4eec\u4ece\u6765\u6ca1\u6709\u628a\u611f\u60c5\u6295\u5165\u5230\u4f60\u8eab\u4e0a\u3002<\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5173\u7cfb\u7684\u65e9\u671f\u9636\u6bb5\u662f\u8106\u5f31\u7684\uff0c\u56e0\u4e3a\u8fd9\u662f\u4f60\u5efa\u7acb\u57fa\u7840\u7684\u5730\u65b9\u3002 <\/p>\n<p 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class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4f46\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u5ffd\u89c6\u4ed6\u4eec\u592a\u4e45\uff0c\u6709\u4e00\u5929\u4f60\u53ef\u80fd\u4f1a\u53d1\u73b0\u4f60\u5728\u4e00\u4e2a\u591a\u5e74\u6765\u4e00\u76f4\u5bf9\u4f60\u4e0d\u597d\u7684\u4eba\u8eab\u4e0a\u6295\u5165\u4e86\u8fd9\u4e48\u591a\uff01 [\u9605\u8bfb\uff1a\u4f60\u4eec\u7684\u5173\u7cfb\u5f00\u59cb\u6076\u5316\u7684\u65e9\u671f\u9884\u8b66\u4fe1\u53f7]<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-27-no-social-media-stalking\">\n  <span id=\"27_No_social_media_stalking\">27. \u7981\u6b62\u793e\u4ea4\u5a92\u4f53\u8ddf\u8e2a <\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u597d\u5427\uff0c\u4f60\u60f3\u4e86\u89e3\u4f60\u7684\u53e6\u4e00\u534a\u7684\u4e00\u4e9b\u4e8b\u60c5\uff0c\u4f46\u4f60\u4e0d\u60f3\u63d0\u524d\u95ee\u3002\u4f46\u6765\u5427\uff0c\u4e0d\u8981\u6210\u4e3a 2008 \u5e74\u90a3\u4e2a\u5077\u5077\u8ddf\u8e2a\u4f34\u4fa3\u7167\u7247\u7684\u4ee4\u4eba\u6bdb\u9aa8\u609a\u7136\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\uff01<\/p>\n<p 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