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id=\"How_to_overcome_retroactive_jealousy_in_yourself\">\u5982\u4f55\u514b\u670d\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u8ffd\u6eaf\u6027\u5ac9\u5992<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h2>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u4e00\u76f4\u6c89\u8ff7\u4e8e\u4f60\u4f34\u4fa3\u7684\u8fc7\u53bb\uff0c\u4ed6\u4eec\u7ea6\u4f1a\u8fc7\u8c01\uff0c\u4e8b\u60c5\u6709\u591a\u4e25\u91cd\uff0c\u6216\u8005\u5728\u4f60\u51fa\u73b0\u4e4b\u524d\u4ed6\u4eec\u5728\u5e8a\u4e0a\u505a\u4e86\u4ec0\u4e48\uff0c\u90a3\u4e48\u4f60\u5e76\u4e0d\u5b64\u5355\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u8ffd\u6eaf\u6027\u5ac9\u5992\u611f\u89c9\u5c31\u50cf\u662f\u4f60\u65e0\u6cd5\u9003\u8131\u7684\u5fc3\u7406\u5faa\u73af\u3002\u4f46\u597d\u6d88\u606f\u662f\uff1a\u8fd9\u4e0d\u662f\u6c38\u4e45\u6027\u7684\uff0c\u4f60\u5b8c\u5168\u53ef\u4ee5\u901a\u8fc7\u4e00\u70b9\u81ea\u6211\u610f\u8bc6\u3001\u60c5\u7eea\u8c03\u8282\u548c\u5927\u8111\u91cd\u65b0\u5e03\u7ebf\u6765\u6253\u7834\u8fd9\u4e2a\u5faa\u73af\u3002<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-recognize-that-your-thoughts-aren-t-facts\">\n  <span id=\"1_Recognize_that_your_thoughts_arent_facts\">1. \u8ba4\u8bc6\u5230\u4f60\u7684\u60f3\u6cd5\u4e0d\u662f\u4e8b\u5b9e<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4ec5\u4ec5\u56e0\u4e3a\u4f60\u7684\u5927\u8111\u5728\u7f16\u9020\u6709\u5173\u4f60\u4f34\u4fa3\u8fc7\u53bb\u7684\u6545\u4e8b\uff0c\u5e76\u4e0d\u610f\u5473\u7740\u8fd9\u4e9b\u6545\u4e8b\u662f\u771f\u5b9e\u7684\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u662f\u76f8\u5173\u7684\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u8ffd\u6eaf\u6027\u5ac9\u5992\u901a\u5e38\u662f\u7531\u4fb5\u5165\u6027\u60f3\u6cd5\u5f15\u53d1\u7684\uff0c\u8fd9\u4e9b\u60f3\u6cd5\u662f\u4f60\u8111\u6d77\u4e2d\u7a81\u7136\u51fa\u73b0\u7684\u4e0d\u60f3\u8981\u7684\u3001\u4ee4\u4eba\u75db\u82e6\u7684\u60f3\u6cd5\u3002\u4e0d\u8981\u5c06\u5b83\u4eec\u89c6\u4e3a\u5371\u9669\u4fe1\u53f7\uff0c\u800c\u662f\u5c06\u5b83\u4eec\u89c6\u4e3a\u7cbe\u795e\u5783\u573e\u90ae\u4ef6\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u6ce8\u610f\u4ed6\u4eec\uff0c\u4f46\u4e0d\u8981\u53c2\u4e0e\u3002\u6b63\u5ff5\u548c\u8ba4\u77e5\u89e3\u79bb\u6280\u5de7\uff08\u6bd4\u5982\u8bf4\uff0c\u201c\u6211\u6709\u8fd9\u6837\u7684\u60f3\u6cd5\u2026\u2026\u201d\uff09\u53ef\u4ee5\u5e2e\u52a9\u4f60\u5728\u4f60\u548c\u60f3\u6cd5\u4e4b\u95f4\u5efa\u7acb\u8ddd\u79bb\u3002<\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\ud83d\udcda \u6765\u6e90\uff1aWells & Matthews\uff0c1994\uff0c\u6ce8\u610f\u529b\u548c\u60c5\u7eea\uff1a\u4e34\u5e8a\u89c6\u89d2 <\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-identify-your-emotional-triggers\">\n  <span id=\"2_Identify_your_emotional_triggers\">2. \u8bc6\u522b\u4f60\u7684\u60c5\u7eea\u89e6\u53d1\u70b9<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u662f\u4ec0\u4e48\u8ba9\u4f60\u5931\u671b\uff1f\u662f\u4e0d\u662f\u770b\u5230\u4e86\u4e00\u5f20\u8001\u7167\u7247\uff1f\u542c\u5230\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fa3\u63d0\u5230\u524d\u4efb\uff1f\u6216\u8005\u53ea\u662f\u77e5\u9053\u4ed6\u4eec\u5728\u4f60\u4e4b\u524d\u7231\u8fc7\u522b\u4eba\uff1f\u5177\u4f53\u4e00\u70b9\u3002\u8ffd\u6eaf\u6027\u5ac9\u5992\u5728\u6a21\u7cca\u7684\u4e0d\u9002\u4e2d\u6ecb\u957f\u3002\u4f60\u8d8a\u6e05\u695a\u5730\u8bc6\u522b\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u60c5\u7eea\u89e6\u53d1\u70b9\uff0c\u5c31\u8d8a\u5bb9\u6613\u7ba1\u7406\u5b83\u4eec\uff0c\u800c\u4e0d\u4f1a\u9677\u5165\u6076\u6027\u5faa\u73af\u3002<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-reframe-your-partner-s-past\">\n  <span id=\"3_Reframe_your_partners_past\">3. \u91cd\u5851\u4f60\u4f34\u4fa3\u7684\u8fc7\u53bb<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4e0d\u8981\u5c06\u4ed6\u4eec\u7684\u8fc7\u53bb\u89c6\u4e3a\u5a01\u80c1\uff0c\u800c\u5e94\u5c06\u5176\u89c6\u4e3a\u4ed6\u4eec\u5b66\u4e60\u3001\u6210\u957f\u548c\u9009\u62e9\u4f60\u7684\u8bc1\u636e\u3002\u6bcf\u4e2a\u4eba\u90fd\u6709\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u5386\u53f2\uff0c\u8fd9\u5c31\u662f\u6211\u4eec\u6210\u4e3a\u73b0\u5728\u7684\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u539f\u56e0\u3002\u4f60\u4f34\u4fa3\u7684\u8fc7\u53bb\u4e0d\u662f\u7ade\u4e89\uff0c\u800c\u662f\u7ade\u4e89\u3002\u8fd9\u662f\u4e00\u4e2a\u4e0a\u4e0b\u6587\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u4ed6\u4eec\u5728\u4f60\u4e4b\u524d\u6709\u8fc7\u7ecf\u5386\u5e76\u4e0d\u610f\u5473\u7740\u4f60\u4e0d\u90a3\u4e48\u91cd\u8981\u3002\u8fd9\u610f\u5473\u7740\u4ed6\u4eec\u5fc5\u987b\u5148\u751f\u6d3b\u624d\u80fd\u627e\u5230\u5408\u9002\u7684\u4eba\u9009\uff0c\u4e0e\u4f60\u5728\u4e00\u8d77\u3002 [\u9605\u8bfb\uff1a\u5173\u7cfb FOMO\uff1a\u4e0e FOMO \u7ea6\u4f1a\u7684 56 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id=\"3_Say_no_to_emotional_surveillance\">3. \u5bf9\u60c5\u7eea\u76d1\u89c6\u8bf4\u4e0d<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5ac9\u5992\u6709\u65f6\u4f1a\u5bfc\u81f4\u63a7\u5236\uff0c\u4f8b\u5982\u60f3\u8981\u8bbf\u95ee\u60a8\u7684\u624b\u673a\u3001\u793e\u4ea4\u5a92\u4f53\u5bc6\u7801\u6216\u4e0d\u65ad\u66f4\u65b0\u60a8\u7684\u884c\u8e2a\u3002 <\/p>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u867d\u7136\u900f\u660e\u5ea6\u53ef\u4ee5\u5efa\u7acb\u4fe1\u4efb\uff0c\u4f46\u5f3a\u5236\u8bbf\u95ee\u5374\u4f1a\u524a\u5f31\u4fe1\u4efb\u3002\u660e\u786e\u9690\u79c1\u548c\u4fdd\u5bc6\u4e0d\u662f\u4e00\u56de\u4e8b\uff0c\u76f8\u4e92\u4fe1\u4efb\u662f\u4e00\u6761\u53cc\u5411\u8def\u3002<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-refuse-to-walk-on-eggshells\">\n  <span id=\"4_Refuse_to_walk_on_eggshells\">4.\u62d2\u7edd\u5982\u5c65\u8584\u51b0<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p 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class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u6709\u4eba\u611f\u5230\u6709\u70b9\u4e0d\u5b89\u5168\u662f\u53ef\u4ee5\u7684\uff0c\u4f46\u5982\u679c\u4ed6\u4eec\u4ec5\u4ec5\u56e0\u4e3a\u611f\u5230\u53d7\u5230\u5a01\u80c1\u5c31\u8981\u6c42\u4f60\u4e0e\u670b\u53cb\u65ad\u7edd\u5173\u7cfb\u3001\u5728\u793e\u4ea4\u5a92\u4f53\u4e0a\u5c4f\u853d\u4ed6\u4eba\u6216\u505c\u6b62\u4e0e\u540c\u4e8b\u4ea4\u8c08\uff0c\u90a3\u5c31\u4e0d\u597d\u4e86\u3002\u8fd9\u4e0d\u662f\u4fdd\u62a4\uff0c\u800c\u662f\u4fdd\u62a4\u3002\u8fd9\u662f\u63a7\u5236\u3002<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-constant-interrogation-or-surveillance\">\n  <span id=\"3_Constant_interrogation_or_surveillance\">3.\u6301\u7eed\u5ba1\u8baf\u6216\u76d1\u89c6<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u5982\u679c\u4ed6\u4eec\u68c0\u67e5\u4f60\u7684\u624b\u673a\uff0c\u8981\u6c42\u6bcf\u6b21\u4e92\u52a8\u7684\u8be6\u7ec6\u89e3\u91ca\uff0c\u6216\u8005\u9700\u8981\u8bc1\u660e\u4f60\u5728\u54ea\u91cc\u4ee5\u53ca\u548c\u8c01\u5728\u4e00\u8d77\uff0c\u90a3\u4e48\u8fd9\u4e0d\u4ec5\u4ec5\u662f\u201c\u5c0f\u5fc3\u201d\u3002\u8fd9\u662f\u4e00\u79cd\u5f3a\u8feb\u884c\u4e3a\u3002\u8fd9\u5f88\u7d2f\u3002<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-emotional-blackmail-or-guilt-tripping\">\n  <span id=\"4_Emotional_blackmail_or_guilt-tripping\">4. \u60c5\u611f\u52d2\u7d22\u6216\u5185\u759a\u611f<\/span><br \/>\n<\/h3>\n<p 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